Teens Self Help

Website connected to TeensSelfHelp.com. For me is a medium to express myself and talk about my feelings. "Believe in yourself, in the power you have to control your own life day by day. Believe in the strength that you have deep inside and your faith will help show you the way. Believe in tomorrow and what it will bring. For things will work out if you trust and believe there is no limit to what you can do!" (Larry S. Chengges)

Tuesday, June 26, 2007

It's Okay to be like an Onion...


Why is it that most of us are always expecting "perfection" when we are not perfect ourselves? Why are we so demanding of others, our friends, our spouses, our children, our co-workers? Why are we so critical and judgmental? Let's remember: we are only human, we still have a lot to learn. Isn't that what life is all about? Learning?

We want our life to be perfect, our parents to be perfect, our teachers to be perfect, everyone to be perfect! Well, this is unrealistic and will never happen! What we have to do is to learn to accept people as they are, with their imperfections, their shortcomings, their particularities, their faults; and concentrate in their qualities, their goodness, their talents. We have to learn to love ourselves with our imperfections and others with theirs. Of course, some people are like "onions" - they stink! (just kidding...) We have to peel their layers to get to their core, to find their best side - their true self.

Some people hide their true beauty with layers of resentments, pain, anger, fear, insecurities. They build a wall around themselves to try to protect themselves, because they've been hurt many times (they're in pain) and cannot let anyone in (or have a very hard time letting anyone in). They have the hard task to learn to TRUST again. How can they trust us? All we can do is to keep trying, be very patient, kind, respectful, honest and very loving, and just let them BE...

Let's see the best in them and the BEST will come out, their true CORE. It's okay to be an "onion", as long as we don't become too repelling and offensive. Let's strive to be more like a delicious refreshing fruit (the fruit of your choice!) - attractive, beautiful, healthy and good for everyone (and to everyone). I actually love onions now (I used to hate them). I love them in my salads and in many different foods - like "pico de gallo", salsa, French onion soup, onion rings, cheese steak sandwiches, etc. They say onions are very good for you... so be good to them!